Being a bully may affect a child’s future.

There are reasons why some people bully and this can affect the lives of the bullies. One of the reasons that bullys act as they do is because for them bullying is a way of being popular, or making themselves seem tough. Bullies do it to get attention or to make other people afraid. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying for different reasons. Sometimes bullies might victims of bullying themselves and think that making other people feels bad will make them feel good.

Bullies are more likely to be involved in ongoing antisocial and criminal behavior, have issues with substance abuse, have low academic achievement, and abuse their spouse or children later in life. In some cases it could be abuse of their partner or if they form a family the abuse can affect the children. This is a very serious problem because the bullying phenomenon can pass from generation to generation.

Bullies usually have their own problems that cause them to pick on others and if they are allowed to bully these problems may never be resolved. Bullies often have friends but these relationships are destructive and only help to grow bullying. The effects of bullying on bullies are usually realized in school and in the home.

A bully who is never taught to deal with his other problems will most likely end up being aggressive and bullying others in their adult life. Bullies are also can be more likely to commit crimes and to be involved in illegal things when they get older. Bullies often end up being problematic persons throughout their lives.

Children need to understand that being a bully is wrong and not positive at all. Children need to feel loved, safe and secure and this will most likely help the child build confidence levels.

Victims of bullying.

Parents and teachers can help explain to victims what bullying is, they can also explain the causes of this phenomenon, this would give victims of bullying the confidence and support to stop being victims.

The victims of bullying often are very sensitive children. They aren't able to dodge a conflict with humor .Such children are often serious. They have less skill in fighting and most lose fights. Victims can be selected from any category, although neglected children are often more likely to be victims.

Many victims of bullying are so terrified of a bully that they suffer in silence. This is often because the victim doesn’t have enough confidence to talk with an adult.

Children need to understand that they are free to form their days building friendships, and dreaming about all the possibilities for their lives. Also victims often ordered by bullies to say nothing. In this case the communication with children, parents and teachers is very important.

Victims of bullies tend to be anxious as a result of bullying. It is difficult for many children to speak freely in class. This is a characteristic of timid children. It is important to observe the attitude of children, to see if they have a problem, and know the difference between a victim of bullying and child timid. Many times we think that the victims of bullying are quiet children that are hesitant to defend and protect themselves. This is because sometimes parents protect them a lot and they can not explore the real world. Sometimes the victims of bullying have bad habits that may be difficult for adults to deal with.

The affects of bullying can be seen even after the victims grow up. Victims can have feelings of bitterness, desire for revenge, difficulty trusting people, personal difficulties, fear of new social situations, the taste for being alone, self-esteem problems, and other factors that can negatively affect their lives. In another case bullying toughens victims and prepares them for the real world. It is important to teach children that they can become good people with successful lives if they learn to defend themselves.

Bibliography.

http://www.education.com/reference/article/what-is-a-bully-victim/

http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/myths.htm

http://www.focusas.com/Bullying.html

http://www.child-psych.org/2009/05/bully-victims-at-risk-for-psychotic-symptoms.html

http://www.ojjdp.ncjrs.gov/jjbulletin/9804/bullying2.html